| Book Testimonials I purchased Melanie's books Breaking the Chains of Painful Love and Take Back Your Power quite some time after I started trying to assess my painful relationship. I knew something was wrong, but I just couldn't put my finger on it. I stumbled onto her web site and read several of her articles and it was like seeing my life in print. I don't know that anything could have opened my eyes like her words did. What became even more apparent, after starting her books, was just how stuck I was in repeating the patterns of bad relationships. I knew I had a lot of work to do. Your book Breaking the Chains of Painful Love has been wonderful to read. I was abused when I was a little girl. And as I got older I always tried to be what other people wanted me to be, never really thinking of myself, and when people would put me down I would really believe they were right and I was nothing. Then I read your book and the words "what others think of you does not matter it's what you think of yourself that matters". Your book has changed the way I look at life, and it is definitely a change for the better. Thank you Melanie. I read Melanie’s book Breaking the Chains of Painful Love approximately one year after I’d worked myself out of an emotionally abusive relationship, which left me drained and depleted of physical, mental and emotional energy as well as with a broken spirit. Though a year had passed since returning to taking charge of my own life, I was still pondering over what happened, why it happened and what I’d done wrong. Melanie’s book was an eye opener for me and I wish I’d read it years earlier, so that I could’ve realised, at a much earlier stage, how dangerous and serious my situation had been. The book is amazing not only in the ways in which abusive patterns and self-destructive beliefs and behaviours are explained, but more so because Melanie writes based on her own experiences. This means the book is not simply another work of theoretical concepts and ideas, ‘should dos’ and ‘shouldn’t dos’, but is full of emotion, passion and truth. Put simply, women who are experiencing or have experienced any of these unhealthy patterns will be able to easily relate and identify, thus avoiding the dangers of denying the truth that even though this could happen to other people and even though it would be an awful experience, it doesn’t relate to them or their life. The book has helped me to understand why I have attracted the relationship and also the reasons why I stayed in it. At times, when reading the book, my tummy turned, since the experiences and their effects Melanie described, matched mine to a very high degree and I could feel old emotions returning when causes and consequences were named. That was the point at which I realised that, though I had left the relationship, the effects were still apparent and naming the different behaviours, aspects, patterns, etc forced me to confront myself and deal with the issues. One particularly eye opening aspect for myself was the concept of co-dependency. When I read about the concept, thoughts of insecure co-dependently behaving people crossed my mind, and then my heart sank, because I saw myself having followed these patterns in the past without realising it. The truth is Melanie’s book has raised my self-awareness, sensitised my intuition towards abusive patterns and undesirable behaviour traits – not only in potential partners but also in myself. I’ve found my way back to self-acceptance and self-love, and since reading the book have been able to more easily identify personality traits pointing towards manipulative and potentially abusive behaviours that triggered my alarm bells. I cannot thank Melanie enough for sharing her experiences and raising awareness of the causes, patterns and dangers of abusive relationships. We all deserve to be happy and be in loving and caring relationships! I read Melanie’s book ‘Taking Back your Power’ at her suggestion, as I seemed to have got stuck and couldn’t move forward. I felt totally ‘blocked’. The suggestions and written exercises in the book really highlighted all aspects of my low self- esteem and helped me see clearly where these had originated. By working with Melanie’s wonderful 11:11 Process, I began to understand my own self-doubt and release these false concepts I had about myself. I transformed them into positive statements that over 11 days have had a profound result. I feel much freer, centred and more in control and back on course once more. I was directed towards Mel by one of my best friends who’d done her courses and who was in the process of reading the book Breaking the Chains of Painful Love as she felt that Mel and her books could help me overcome a lot of issues that I’d carried for years. Only a few chapters into Breaking the Chains of Painful Love, I couldn't believe how much the book related to my life. I also realised, something I never had before: that I was a very co-dependant person. I had always been looking for the guy who would be the person to 'fix' me and all my issues, which I thought would allow me to finally be happy. How wrong I was! Now I knew why I had been attracting (and attracted to) the same sort of unavailable people, and re-creating the same situations over and over again. I hadn’t learnt the lesson! Upon reading the book, I realised that I’m the only one person who could 'fix me'. After finishing the first book I started Take Back Your Power to continue with the healing work that I was doing on myself. From the awareness of the books I took ownership of my life and started working on myself with the exercises in the book and many healing modalities. As a result I have noticed powerful changes in my life. I’m far more aware of other people and how they make me feel and how they affect my boundaries. I have learnt to take a step back and evaluate first rather than jumping in head first. I now set boundaries and actually live by them. The benefits are amazing! I'm so much happier than I’ve ever been and so much calmer. I'm losing weight and beginning to love myself. Everything will be ok and I know I won't be alone in life! Mel is an amazing woman who has come through so much to be where she is and has won the battle of life! She’s an inspiration and a wonderfully warm, generous and caring human being who has a lot of give. I would recommend anyone to read the books! My Aunty referred your site to me, as I was going through a troublesome time with my partner. Straight away I was impressed by the information you had to offer, and without hesitation purchased Breaking the Chains of Painful Love. This was the beginning of my journey (that I am still on and have a way to go) in rediscovering me and loving myself. I’ve been in two scaringly similar dysfunctional relationships, whereby I gave away my power and lost myself and my identity. I wasn’t happy and knew there was more to life, and that I could have a healthy relationship if only I could break this pattern. Your book granted me a greater awareness of me and my life, and gave me the knowledge to identify the repeat pattern I’d been living. It was the beginning of my healing and rediscovering journey and for that I am so grateful. It opened my eyes to the fact that I was not being unreasonable in my expectations of my relationship i.e. trust, respect etc, and your chapters on ‘rights’ put everything back into perspective for me. Although there are many women out there who have suffered far greater than I ever did, as a result of reading the book, you certainly gain a sense of how common painful relationships are. I didn’t feel alone anymore. Your book inspired me to move towards the light at the end of the tunnel, and as a result I am empowering myself with theta healings and reading more material. I feel that now I am on my right path again, and am so excited for this is just the beginning for me and there are so many wonderful things waiting around the corner. I originally purchased Melanie’s book 'Breaking the Chains of Painful Love' because I’d never been successful in having a long term relationship. I was in a relationship, which ended half way through the book, and I was kicked out of my home. The principles I was reading, not only helped me to deal with the broken love relationship, but mine and my mother’s relationship as well. My greatest epiphany moment in the book was when I read that the ultimate level of forgiveness is realizing that there is actually nothing to forgive. I now know that without the experience of ‘painful’ people that I wouldn’t have healed my lack of boundary function and ‘people pleasing’. I felt a heavy load lifted from my shoulders when I read that sentence. It resonated so deeply. All anger was immediately released and I felt thankful for being given the opportunity to grow. Truly, I am now so grateful to where I am today because of these people. This book has changed my life in how I look at situations. Instead of having anger, bitterness and resentment I am now grateful for the situations and I look at how I have grown from them. I now have loving and supportive relationships in my life, I honour myself and I feel like I’m moving forward through my life with great ease. I’ve read Mel’s book Breaking the Chains of Painful Love, and I felt like I was reading ‘my story’. So much of it made total sense, and has helped me realise why I ended up in the situation I did. It helped give me closure, realising what narcissistic behaviour was, and now I know I’m not insane. This book along with the course, reading and healings have definitely given me the tools to now continue leading a positive life feeling empowered, and able to hold my own boundaries without falling back into the old belief systems of co-dependency and victimhood. I’ve gained so much from Mel’s open, nurturing, positive nature and her absolute enthusiasm and belief in what she teaches that I’m also completing the Divine Connection and Meditation course and loving it. In an attempt to seek healing for myself and my family I was surfing the net, as I do, and I came across an author named Melanie Tonia Evans from Langwarrin, Melbourne. When I read her articles, I knew I was reading about my life and what I’d been through. I rang her straight away; as I felt purchasing her books was exactly what I needed. I rushed down to her home and bought the books. From the moment I met Mel I knew I was in the presence of a teacher of quality who’d been through it and come out the other side. As I read the books, I couldn’t put them down. A light went off, as I knew I’d found solutions. I wanted more so I rang Melanie back and signed up to do the self-empowerment courses. I also had a theta healing session with her which was profound. I’m a middle aged student in my sixties, and before finding Melanie’s writings and teachings I was still struggling with wounds from abuse, and seeing the pattern continue with my daughter. Since working with Mel, I’ve come from being a seeker to a finder, and previously I’d done every spiritual healing modality know to man! Her work is what gave me back to myself. I now finally feel liberated, I’m creating healthy boundaries, detaching from other people’s drama, instead of trying to fix it, and for the first time in my life I’ve been able to let go of decades of abuse and pain. The experience of Melanie has given me my life back. I now know I have a life to live, and I’m determined to live it! Anyone who is putting up with abuse, or living the after affects needs to read Melanie’s books and consider her healings and courses. I can thoroughly recommend Mel's books, courses and healings. Not only is she my teacher but a friend as well. The books and the associated processes are totally inspiring and mind-blowing. I never realized just how many negative belief systems I was running in my life and how I was continually creating my own pain, chaos and suffering. Breaking the Chains of Painful Love has helped me realize that I am a beautiful individual who deserves love, affection and compassion. I’ve been able to grow past my co-dependence and stop letting other people damage and abuse me. I’ve learnt how to trust life and other people and let go of fear. Most importantly I’ve learnt how to trust myself. As a result I’ve drawn miraculous occurrences and amazingly supportive and loving people into my world. My relationship with myself has become healthier than I could possible imagine. For the first time in my entire life I have found and embraced the real me and know how to create the life I deserve. I had tried numerous counselors and avenues for lengthy periods and never experienced results anything like this. All of this happened in the short space of four weeks after applying the processes in the book. I found the courage to completely let go of a destructive relationship, and started to work on myself. It is now many months later, and the empowerment I gained has become a part of my everyday life. After not working for eighteen years I studied and have just secured the job of my dreams, and now know how to create the reality of my life. The books are on my bedside table and to me they are a 'bible' for my life. If I catch myself slipping I go back to my favourite sections and processes. I have no fear of being single and know in every ounce of my being that a beautiful man will one day share the wholeness of who I am. The once 'broken me' glows brightly as a durable and lasting reality. I cannot recommend the knowledge Melanie has conveyed enough. I sincerely hope Melanie’s work gains the world-wide exposure it deserves and that other people who were as lost as me reach out and seek this help. Melanie's book Breaking the Chains of Painful Love has helped me with the biggest decision of my life - to end my 24 year relationship with my husband. Upon reading this enjoyable and easy to read book, something clicked for me that made this decision so clear that I knew this was the right thing for me to do. Even though it is difficult to end and untangle our long life together, the clarity I have received from reading this book has shown me that if your relationship is not meeting your needs then what less than beliefs do you have running about your deservability and self worth? I certainly intend to address this before launching into my next relationship! Because of Melanie’s teachings in Breaking the Chains of Painful Love and Take Back Your Power I came out of the black hole I’d been in for most of my life. I’d been blaming a bad marriage with a bad man for my depression, my reclusiveness, and just my general pattern of attracting the same sort of people into my life. My life is now ‘my life’ rather than just an existence, which it barely was previously. I had been on anti-depressants on and off for 10 years, since my marriage ended, and saw psychologists for a long period of time. This only took the edge off so I could function, but that was all. I still faced the weekends and evenings alone, had a couple of drinks and went to bed so I didn’t have to think. As a result of applying the knowledge and the processes of Melanie’s books, I’m off anti-depressants, no longer seeing a psychologist, and work diligently on the processes to change my belief systems. I have so much to be thankful for, and I can’t believe I’m saying that. It’s so liberating to be in this place and finally being free. Melanie is an absolute inspiration. I cannot express the gratitude I feel toward her and the service and care she is providing to so many people in need. Thanks to finding out how to heal myself from the inside out and recreate my belief systems and patterns, I’ve met the most beautiful man in the most miraculous way. The connection and synergy of this union happened naturally and effortlessly from day one. We’ve now been together for over a year, and the relationship has never looked like becoming distrustful or abusive. This man of integrity and sincerity totally reflects the love and the support I learnt how to embrace within myself. In the past I’d never believed I could even fathom another relationship. In a few months I transcended crippling depression to a life of wonder. I’m still pinching myself! Please I urge you to take the journey I did. If I can, anyone can! Melanie is more than just a spiritual healer, she cares about the people she assists and wants to see them happy and living in their truth. I have experienced personal sessions with her and reaped the rich rewards. I’ve learnt to recognize and deal with my past. Since applying the processes of Breaking the Chains of Painful Love and Take Back Your Power, I’ve changed negative belief systems into positive ones, faced my fears instead of running from them, and I’ve learnt to care for and honour myself on all levels. It truly has been a life changing experience for which I will be forever grateful. I found the processes liberated me in a way that years of counseling never touched. The most astounding changes have occurred in my life, ones that I never thought possible. Some of these have been so profound and sudden that it has totally freaked me out! Things that I have battled with for years have fallen miraculously into place, in some cases within hours of treating these issues with the process in the books. I’ve discovered the incredible power we all have when we work with ourselves and the ‘laws of life’ that Melanie teaches. I would recommend Melanie’s books to anyone who wishes to change their life in a very short amount of time. After suffering highly abusive relationships for all of my adult life, I am now in a wonderful relationship. I know I manifested this relationship from within myself. This honest and trustworthy man treats me with the utmost respect, love and care. I deserve this level of love and I am thrilled and honored to receive it! I feel blessed and honored to have been able to work through the processes of Breaking The Chains Of Painful Love. The personal growth and results have been astounding. After many years of soul searching and doing the inner work on myself, I’ve still struggled to find true love, or any love for that matter. I felt like the door was closed on me, and this resulted in feelings of despair and helplessness. I began to wonder what was wrong with me. When I heard about Melanie’s knowledge and the results it was creating I jumped at the chance to apply the processes, because I was ready to overcome this obstacle at any cost. Through the Breaking The Chains of Painful Love processes I was made aware of a long-held, subconscious belief pattern that had caused my heart to be closed off to love. I discovered that the wounds were very deep, despite the fact that consciously I was feeling healthy, happy and abundant. This process brought this truth to the light, something that had eluded me before now. Initially, upon reflecting on the loving affirmation (part of the 11x11 process), I felt nothing, not one spark in my heart centre. Having no feeling or reaction to this was alarming to me, as outwardly my loving energy flows feely to others, but clearly I had no love for self. This inspired me to commit completely to the daily practice; I was determined to overcome this and love myself wholly. I have now concluded this part of the process and am feeling amazing. My heart centre is open, and I am now starting to attract male attention. I am feeling empowered and confident around the opposite sex. It was so worth pushing through those painful barriers and looking at myself objectively, without judgment. I recommend Melanie’s books to anyone who wishes to experience success in loving relationships. I have found the insights in Breaking the Chains of Painful Love incredible. It has brought forth so many issues that I had hidden which I never knew existed. This has been a very revealing journey and I have benefited enormously from this insight. I am so much more at peace with myself and I am now accepting myself as a lovely and honourable person. Many thanks Melanie. Love and light always. While sifting through the internet I came across Melanie's website having typed in a search for Narcissism. I didnt want to get caught up in labelling the person I was in a relationship with, but as I read Melanies insights, suddenly everything fell into place around what I had been experiencing. Naturally I ordered her book, 'Breaking the chains of painful love' and eagerly looked forward to this as further confirmation over what I had been denying to myself. The book is honest, helpful and empowering, I particularly enjoyed hearing Melanie's 'voice' as I was reading and her words, written with such personal integrity coupled with her fervent wish to help women ensnared in painful love, certainly meant that Melanie spoke to me. Needless to say the book is no longer on my bookshelf, I have already passed it on to another woman who needs to hear these truths and commence her own healing journey. It's been a wonderful healing time for my feminine and allowing myself to receive love now from respectful and decent sources. Melanie your website, book and beautiful energy on the phone, when I ordered the book, have all been part of this journey for me, so thank you once again. I was stuck being the "victim" within my marriage and could see no way out of my pain and horror to ever try and liberate myself from the hell in which I lived. My sister urged me to seek help from Melanie and encouraged me to make contact. On meeting Melanie she shared her experiences and showed me the path to liberation and freedom through theta healing and counselling Melanie provided the tools and awareness to make me realise I was not powerless or alone. I have taken the first step in faith without seeing the rest of the staircase and so now my journey has begun. I'm slowly regaining my lost self I CAN FEEL THE CHAINS OF OPPRESSION AND YEARS OF MENTAL ABUSE DISINTEGRATING AND I NOW LONGER FEEL SO CRIPPLED BY FEAR AND SELF DOUBT. Breaking the chains of painful love (Melanie's book) has become my bible to freedom. Thank you Mel. ~ Leann D. Rural reporter, Albury, NSW, Australia. I found the book Take Back Your Power very invaluable in helping me work through many things since my marriage separation three years ago. I also found the chapters on positive affirmations very beneficial and was able to go forward rather than two steps backwards. I still continue to read the book on an ongoing basis just to keep me on track. ~ Pam M. 49, Bursar/Finance Officer, Ascot Park, SA, Australia. I discovered Melanie Tonia Evans and her book "Breaking the Chains of Painful Love" during a dark and heartbreaking time in my life and relationship with my partner at the time. I was struggling to understand everything - myself, my relationship and my normal everyday life. I could feel my life and energy being stolen. Friends and family could see it and the changes within me but I could not see it, or was unwilling to see it. Melanie’s book literally opened up my eye and it made me realize that I wasn’t alone in my circumstances. I had many moments of “Yes!” Melanie’s book gave me the courage to stand up for myself, say this is not right, leave the relationship and most importantly stay away from him. Reading the book was rather confronting for me as I actually had to face up to myself and understand more about myself. However, it has been one of the best things I have done in my life. I am still on a journey of self discovery. It has now been five months, and I am happy and secure in myself. With “Breaking the Chains of Painful Love” and in conjunction with therapy, I have learnt boundaries, learnt what not to accept and recognize behaviour that is unhealthy. Healing doesn’t take place overnight, but it does happen! ~ Monica K. 35, Executive Search Consultant, Sydney, Australia. |